23/01/2016

Reasons why pastors love sex and women

Durban - Earlier this week a video showing well
renowned pastor and popular motivational
speaker in South Africa, Sthembiso Zondo in the
nude, went viral on social media.

The recorded video, taken by a woman sitting in
front of him, shows the unmarried Pastor Zondo
talking on his phone, while pacing up and down
around the lounge in front of a woman sitting on a
couch, the video shows the pastor wearing
nothing, using his hand to rub his penis, twice.
Divorced Zondo is the founder and senior pastor
of Soul Renaissance Ministries Durban, South
Africa, established in 2001. He also founded Zero-
to-Hero, an NGO whose objective is to preach the
gospel of hope.

This is indeed a very sad story seeing that Pastor
Zondo influences millions of people and is ranked
as one of the most influential pastors in South
Africa. The new rockstars in town are definitely
pastors, they command respect, attention, drive
state-of-the art cars, they are always on TV and
radio and wear designer clothes.
One statistic in a book shows that 33% of pastors
have crossed the line with a woman not their
spouse but have not been caught. That is an
alarming number. More and more pastors are
cheating on God and cheating on their spouses –
married and unmarried.

A lot of people commenting on social media about
pastor Zondo’s issue didn’t see anything wrong
with his action insisting that the notion of thou
shall not “judge the man of God”, while some are
asking him to step away from being a pastor and
speaker because he has broken ranks from his
godly office. Taking from the scene and mood of
the 37 seconds video it looks like the woman is
his sexual partner. Even if she’s not (highly
unlikely), the question remains, why was he
parading himself naked in front of a woman?
So why do male pastors cheat on their wives or
fornicate though unmarried? Some have many
girlfriends with no shame. Though a lot is
expected of a deacon, elder, or pastor, “it seems
that cheating has become the new normal, the
new cool perhaps”

The truth is that most pastors are ordinary feeble
men and are prone to like every man to be
vulnerable to sexual attraction. There is no
difference between pastors and other ordinary
men. Pastors commit sexual sin for the same
reason people who are not pastors do. What is
that? Well, it consist of different reasons ranging
from the abuse of influence to temptations,
vulnerable needs and weaknesses.
Pastors engage in sexual sins because we allow
them. We keep quiet when we find out that a
pastor is cheating on his wife or in sexual
association with another woman though he’s
unmarried. We misuse phrases from the bible like
“who are you to judge”, “touch not the Lord’s
anointed” and “him who is without sin cast the
first stone”. What rubbish!

Some women are the reason why pastors cheat
and have sexual encounters. They devalue
themselves and offer their vagina to these
fraudulent men of God, thinking it would increase
God’s blessings in their lives and upgrade their
social and spiritual status. That’s a lie from hell.
Women selling themselves cheap encourage
pastors to satisfy their lustful pleasure with
whoever, whenever. I know so many single
pastors who are dating multiple women, some are
aware of it and still hang around them. Run baby!
Also, sometimes married pastors are bored with
their wives and vulnerable to “something
different.” But some cheaters have great wives
and are not bored. So, this is no answer. Some
single pastors just don’t want to commit to their
girlfriends or one woman. They ride on the
attention and influence they have over vulnerable
women in the church

Certain pastors think they are stronger than they
are. But they are not – we all are not. Don’t
believe your hype, your office as a pastor does
not make you immune to temptations and sin. I
have heard of a Congolese pastor based in
Johannesburg pastoring a mega church in
Midrand who uses every opportunity to lure young
women into satisfying his sexual passions. He
still prides himself as a miracle maker. We all
need help. We need a community of faith,
mentors, friends, family and a net to fall into.
Furthermore, pastors feel they are in love with the
sexual partner and justify it as “what I’ve been
searching for all my life.” But they are just as
likely to know going in that this is temporary,
shallow, one-dimensional, and its trouble, yet they
still do it. This is no answer.

Bottom line is pastors cheat and engage in
fornication because just like us, we are all sinners
in need of grace daily. They allow their
relationship with God to get to a broken state.
They get weak and don’t reach out for help.
I stayed away from sex before marriage for 15
years, before then I was promiscuous. And now
that I am married, I’ve made a decision to rather
die than cheat on my wife. How about you? Only
God can help us, but it’s possible!
Fornication and sex destroys us inside-out, don’t
fool around.

So if you are Pastor Zondo, what would you say
to your congregation this Sunday? The devil made
me do it?

Pastors are sinners too. Pray for your pastor.

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