08/05/2016

My husband doesn’t mind me looking into his phone — Theo Oyebade tells their love story



The Oyebades
 
 
United Kingdom-based Nollywood couple, Theo and Ayo Oyebade, share their love story with Punchbelow:
How did you meet your wife?
Ayo: My wife will tell the story like I actually stalked her. But that’s not the case. We were in the same location on quite a few occasions. I bumped into her on the way to Theatre Royal Stratford during the 2012 Olympics. I was at the premiere of quite a few occasions. I bumped into her on the way to Theatre Royal Stratford during the 2012 Olympics. I was at the premiere of Shattered Hearts and even filmed her and the other cast after the movie. However, I first approached her after a film premiere and gave her my business card purely for business purposes. Also, I chatted with her at an awards ceremony and she replied as if she remembered who I was. I then bought tickets to a film that she featured in and we spoke at length after the premiere. Afterwards, we exchanged several text messages and I asked her out on a date.
How did the relationship develop?
Ayo: When we went on a date, we had decided to have a meal at Tunde Siyanbola’s Faaji, but she changed the plans by asking to see where I lived. I took her there and she was okay about my humble living conditions. We went to eat and I took her home. She once invited me for a home-cooked meal too. I also took her out on her birthday. She had five different celebrations that year and made me a part of them all. The relationship gathered momentum when we worked together on her first film production, Shameful Deceit. I was the associate producer.
Before you got married, how long did you date for?
Ayo: We wanted to get married to each other from the start since we just seemed to bond. Nine months after we first met, we tied the knot.
How did he propose to you and how did you feel when he did?
Theo: It was a foregone conclusion that we would get married. His proposal wasn’t anything special; he simply opened a box with the engagement ring in it, took it out and placed it on my finger. I was elated even though I’d known he would be my husband by our third or fourth date.
Were there other ladies you dated before you proposed to her?
Ayo: I am an older man and had been involved in a few long relationships. At the time we met, I just came out of a year-long relationship.
What were the initial attractions?
Ayo: I was attracted by her warmth. I watched as fans flocked around her and took pictures with her. She smiled all the way and chatted to them. When I approached her, I expected her to ignore me but instead she spoke to me and took my  business card. She is an attractive woman but I was mainly interested in her proficiency.
Theo: His maturity attracted me and he looked like a man I could lean on; someone that would treat me right.
Were there oppositions from family members?
Ayo: Theo’s brother seemed to take to me. He apparently watched as I wolfed down ogbono and eba, noticed my gentle nature and gave his approval. There has been no outward objection to our relationship.
How did you adjust to life as a married woman?
Theo: It was natural and I adjusted to married life like I’d been married for years. I really didn’t need much adjustment, as I was always reserved and never entered into relationships lightly.
Has marriage deprived you of your freedom?
Theo: No. I enjoy my life even more now and have more freedom as Ayo takes me almost everywhere. He relieves me of the stress of travelling. Ayo lets me do what I love to do.
How would you describe your marriage?
Theo: Our marriage is good. We love spending time with each other and we are not bored. We work together and help each other out.
What would you like to change about each other?
Ayo: I wouldn’t change anything; the traits she shows now were already apparent during our courtship.
Do you have access to each other’s phones and social media accounts?
Ayo: Yes, we do. Although we do have passwords, we generally leave our phones lying around and our Facebook, Twitter, Instagram accounts are always open.
Theo: I am constantly borrowing Ayo’s phone and do pry once in a while. He doesn’t seem to mind. My main phone is always locked but never hidden. He has complete access to my social media accounts and I have access to his too.
As celebrities, how do you maintain your privacy?
Theo: We hardly have visitors. When we want to be seen, we go out. Once we are home, we have each other. We have moved outside the hustle and bustle of London to get more peace of mind.
How do you spend time together?
Ayo: We spend 95 per cent of our time together. We work together doing publicity, promotions, assisting others on their films and attending numerous events.
Do you operate a joint bank account?
Ayo: We do not have a joint bank account yet, but it is something we plan to look into.
Do you get jealous of your wife’s male fans?
Ayo: Not really. I guess I’ve been around the block and nothing fazes me. Her male admirers are mostly respectful and never go overboard with their affection for her.
How have you managed to stay together as a couple despite failure of some celebrity marriages?
Ayo: We have God as the third member of our marriage. We pray and spend as much time together as possible. We have our tiff sometimes, but nothing irreconcilable.
What causes quarrels between the two of you?
Theo: My rudeness. Ayo is quite a bit older than I am and objects to the way I talk sometimes.
How do you make up at those times?
Ayo: Theo rants sometimes about things and then she is done with it. I usually like to stress the point for longer but I also shrug and the quarrel is over. I don’t think we keep things in between us; we air them and deal with them. There is no special making up ritual.
Ayo: The air just clears really. I lose my rage with Ayo and that’s the end to it.
What pet names do you call each other?
Ayo: I call her Theo or Boss or Darlink.
Theo: He calls me Darlink. I call him Adufe, a pet name given to him by his grandmother.
What do you think causes some celebrity marriages to break up?
Ayo: Most celebrity marriages crash due to lack of communication which draws them away from one another for long periods of time. Of course, these separations sometimes lead to affairs on locations, which invariably get leaked to the press.
What would be your advice to celebrities who are married?
Theo: They should be patient, never let anyone interfere and always pray. They should not go to bed angry or without resolving a quarrel. They must always give each other the benefit of doubt and only act if the evidence of wrongdoing is glaring.

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