Agreed that a verse of the Bible says,
“Spare the rod and spoil the child”. And it will be wrong to disobey
instructions from above. However, the Holy Book does not say you should
use the rod to harm the child.
Many parents, caregivers and guardians
use the rod to harm children in an attempt to ‘discipline’ them. Such
incidents bring up the moral and logical question on the role of the rod
in parenting.
Science may have provided some insights
and answers to the puzzle. After collecting and evaluating the results
of a 50-year-old study, researchers announced the troubling and yet
enlightening result of spanking in kids, either for correctional or
punitive purposes.
The study, published in this month’s Journal of Family Psychology,
reveals that the more children are spanked, the more likely they are to
defy their parents; experience anti-social behaviour; express
aggression, suffer mental health problems and cognitive difficulties.
The scientists evaluated the research which involved over 160,000 children across the globe.
The lead researcher and associate
professor of human development and family sciences at the University of
Texas at Austin, Elizabeth Gershoff, described the result as the most
accurate and evidence-based analysis that has showed the effects of
spanking alone in many years.
Gershoff says, “Our analysis found that
spanking was associated with unintended detrimental outcomes and was not
associated with more immediate or long-term compliance, which are
parents’ intended outcomes when they discipline their children.”
Scholar and co-author Andrew Grogan-Kaylor links spanking with 13 of the17 negative outcomes in children and adults.
“The upshot of the study is that
spanking increases the likelihood of a wide variety of undesired
outcomes in children. Spanking thus does the opposite of what parents
usually want it to do,” Grogan-Kaylor says.
Gershoff and Grogan-Kaylor also tested for the long-term effect on adults who were spanked as children.
The study reveals that the more they
were spanked in childhood, the more likely they were to exhibit
anti-social behaviour and experience mental health problems.
The analysis also shows that adults who
were spanked in their teens are more likely to support physical
punishment for their kids.
The scientists note that one should
worry on the import of this attitude towards physical punishment being
passed off as the norm through generations.
Both spanking and physical abuse were associated with the same detrimental child outcomes in the same direction.
“We as a society think of spanking and
physical abuse as distinct behaviours,” she says. “Yet our research
shows that spanking is linked with the same negative child outcomes as
abuse, just to a slightly lesser degree.”
Gershoff notes that the study results
are consistent with the report by the United States Center for Disease
Control and Prevention, which calls for a legislative approach to
reduce corporal punishment by categorising spanking as a form of
physical abuse.
She says,” We hope that our study can
help to educate parents about the potential harms of spanking and prompt
them to try positive and non-punitive forms of discipline.”
Yes, physicians say that spanking is a physical abuse that has negative implications on the mental health on the individual.
It is a global topic whose relevance is
widely debated. A 2014 United Nations Children’s Emergency Fund states
that as many as 80 per cent of parents around the world spank their
children.
Gershoff notes that this persistence of
spanking is in spite of the fact that there is no clear evidence of its
positive effects and ample evidence abound that it poses a risk of
harm to children’s behaviour and development.
For Consultant Psychiatrist, Dr. Jude
Onyeama, adults who were spanked as children are more prone to settle
disputes in their relationships with physical violence.
Onyeama says that some of the patients
become depressed and experience schizophrenic episodes when they relieve
physical punishments they experienced as kids.
He states, “We really need to examine
the effect of spanking on adults. Yes, you exhibit the consequence of
such physical abuse between your 20s and 50s. Are you beating that
child in anger? Some parents even get mental and physical relief from
beating their child. It is not that they want to correct him/her. They
want the child to do it again so they can even spank her more because
they say it. I hear, ‘If you do it again I will beat you a lot’ from
adults. I have had to recommend anger management for parents.
“They have the problems, not the kids.
There are over 50 ways to counsel or punish your kid when he/she
misbehaves. Get creative, not destructive. Let us mould and not ‘murder’
the self esteem of the next generation.”
“Nobody has the holy grail on parenting.
It is indeed one of the most difficult briefs that can be given to any
individual. But we surmount many challenges in our daily lives. Why not
look for other punitive measures to train your kids?
“We don’t want to be the precursor for a
violent generation. The world already has its unfair share of
dysfunctional adults. Let’s not add to the number.”
Have a great weekend
