Shockwaves are reverberating across Yorùbáland and the global Yorùbá diaspora following the sudden death of the Baba Ọba (King’s Father) of the famed Oyotunji African Village in South Carolina, USA. The late Baba Ọba, Lukman Arohunfale, a revered socialite and traditionalist, passed away under circumstances already sparking fierce controversy. His death comes just days after he publicly accused the newly installed Alaafin of Oyo, His Imperial Majesty Oba Akeem Adéyẹmọ Owoade, of allegedly ordering his courtiers to beat him mercilessly during a recent courtesy visit to the Oyo palace in Nigeria. In a widely circulated voice recording, the deceased recounted how what was meant to be a simple homage turned violent. Although the Baba Ọba had reportedly battled ill health in the past year, growing insinuations suggest that the alleged physical assault may have aggravated his condition, ultimately leading to his untimely death. The palace in Oyo recently denied that s...
Do women cheat as much as men?
For thousands of years, the prevailing belief is that men cheat more than women. It has been ingrained in our thought patterns by literature, music, TV and the society we live in. Men are portrayed as sex-hungry animals who are always on the hunt for it. This notion is quickly changing as more women are coming out to say cheating is natural to them too. A Nigerian woman on Facebook, Nkechi Bianze, shared an interesting post on her account on Monday. In her post, she stated that women are as polygamous as men too.
You can read her post below;
"Guys need to understand that women are polygamous in nature, most especially Nigerian women. It is in the nature of women to cheat. A recent survey reported that 62% of Nigerian women are unfaithful. That's to tell you that it's in the nature of women, most especially Nigerian women to cheat. Cheating or not is at the discretion of the wife! If as a man you find a woman who doesn't cheat on you, then you are just lucky. But stop giving yourself unnecessary heartache checking her phones and keeping a prying eye on her. If your wife cheats on you, it doesn't mean that she doesn't love you. A woman can love and respect you but still cheat on you. It just means that she wants to explore. As long as she still respects you by at least being discreet with her sexcapades, and still plays her roles as a wife, I see no reason why you should get worked up over it. I mean, it's not like the vagina is going to disappear or change in colour and shape. It is stupidity to divorce your wife just because she cheats on you. How many do you want to marry? The next woman might even be worse. And remember that according to the Bible, if you decide to divorce your wife for any reason at all, you are expected to remain celibate for life, or till she dies. I hope God gives our men the wisdom to understand that cheating is NOT enough reason to divorce their wives or even complain at all. Happy Monday everyone. Her interesting post surely got a lot of people riled up but Nkechi Bianze isn't that far off from the truth. Women cheat just as much as men if not even more. Insecurity, the hit HBO show did a lot in exposing the reality of things concerning women and monogamy. The lead character of the show Issa cheated on her faithful boyfriend with her ex. Twitter was in flames when this episode aired. A lot of people are still stuck in the matrix that perpetuates women are monogamous creatures. Issa lie (no pun intended).Insecure- Issa cheated on her hardworking and loyal boyfriend play. We hear more stories of men cheating because women tend to be more expressive about things such as love and relationships. They value the sanctity of a relationship more than men. So when a boyfriend or a husband cheats, the agony from a woman will spill from her fingers and lips. She will tell her friends and share/tweet/retweet clues that the exclusivity of her relationship has been broken. Women don't cheat and the ones who do are whores. This is what old men have fed young men and boys for centuries and this foolish belief still runs till today. It's because of this thinking that men crash and burn when they get cheated on. Their world goes up in smoke. They just can't believe their little angel stepped outside to have sex. It is against everything that they have known. Women cheat too forget the bubble you are in, men in relationships get cheated on a lot. One of the reasons why we don't hear these stories on social media platforms is because men internalise pain. We are not as expressive as women. Another reason is that most men don't know they are being cheated on. Women have been conditioned to look for cheating clues because they have been brought up to believe that all men cheat. Men do not see these clues because we have been taught the opposite. When a man gets cheated on, he tells a few of his boys, internalises the pain till he gets over it. It's rare to see a guy rant on social media when this happens. Also, coming out to say your girl cheated on takes away the perception that your masculinity is potent and strong. Men and women have the same sexual urges. Family upbringing and societal conditioning have clouded this fact. The way a man deals with cheating is different from a woman's response. Women cheat like men. This is not an alternative fact. This is the truth but it is going to take a pretty long time before it is universally accepted.