Unfaithful in marriage- How to get over it?

How to prevent divorce if someone has made treason? Read the article to find answers on this problem.

Mistrust in family between spouses can become obsession, which reason consists in uncertainty in each other. The reason to be unfaithful in marriage has roots from the past of the person who has this feeling. It is capable to destroy the relations slowly.

Infidelity in marriage statistics

At least 76% of men and 21% of women had one illegitimate connection in a lifetime. By the way, about five years ago, it was 60.7% and 41% respectively. It is interesting that the main

place for treason is work. There 28.7% of unfaithful husbands and 31.3% of wives meet their lovers. The holiday romance is also widespread. On vacation, 20.7% of men and 34% of women find a partner for treason. In business trips, it is 9.8% and 2.6% respectively. Treasons with neighbors happen at 4% of husbands and 10% of wives.

Emotional infidelity in marriage – why it happens?

As a rule, mistrust is based on last, negative experience such as infidelity in a marriage and has no relation with reality. But constant fears and experiences are capable to do much seriously harm to mentality. Of course, happens so that mistrust to one of spouses is quite reasonable. For example, they are such mistakes as treachery, treason and lie. But, nevertheless, if one of partners has forgiven another all sins, and they try to improve together their relations, the result won't keep itself waiting and the atmosphere in family will change to the best. But it occurs not always. How to be if suspiciousness and mistrust to wife or husband continues to destroy family life?

Another painful experience, which in the future leads to emergence of pathological mistrust to relatives, is humiliation in parental family and in society in general. For example, the father or mother who are constantly repeating to the child how he is clumsy, unsuccessful, ugly and therefore has to be engaged in study strenuously to compensate it, make their son or daughter hurt. Growing, such person subconsciously considers him or herself unworthy of passionate love, admiration, positive assessment by people around. Having met such relation, he or she has bewilderment and suspiciousness, considering that it can't be sincere.

 If you feel that the cause of your mistrust to the partner or his suspiciousness in relation to you lies in such phenomena, it is necessary to work on them. It can be carried out through confidential talk with the spouse, a complex of the actions directed to increase self-assessment. In the last case, it can be cardinal changes like change of work or sphere of activity on where you feel assured and estimated, and light but quite effective actions like change of image and appearance.

Right discussion of problem, its true reasons and further work with them will be a correct way out. So, for example, in case of treason, whether the truth was painful for you, it is better to talk to the partner about what has roused him to so radical step. Was it a minute weakness or deeper contradictions between you are behind it? It is worth to do the same with other conflict situations, which arouse mistrust, because it all comes from a lack of information, knowledge of each other, absence of stable and warm proximity with relatives.

Infidelity in marriage bible

The bible demonstrates that God defined marriage of human being as obligation for the rest of their life. Nevertheless, God assumes that two guilty persons marry and therefore, there can be a divorce. Jesus says that divorce is allowed if there was a sexual sin. However even after infidelity with the Grace of God, a couple can receive force to forgive each other and begin restoration of their family.