Dear Monalisa Chinda, atleast 1 in 3
women globally, will experience some form of domestic violence in their
life time and 38% of murders perpetrated against women globally are
committed by male intimate partners. While statistics are patchy, the
incidents of domestic violence against women are reportedly higher in
Africa as a result of cultural and social attitudes which seemingly
excuse such behaviours. So before you open your 'okro mouth' to speak
on such a sensitive and important subject, be sure to do your research.
Several complex and interconnected factors drive
domestic violence including low education, child maltreatment or
exposure to violence between parents, abuse during childhood, excessive
drug and alcohol intake, attitudes such as yours which are receptive of
violence and gender inequality. Increase in women's economic strength
and independence is also being increasingly viewed as a threat by men,
leading to increased incidents of violence. On the flipside, lack of
economic resources also makes women vulnerable and susceptible to
domestic violence.
The absence of legal protection is also a strong factor
in perpetuating violence against women. In all the studies from
reputable agencies including UNwomen, UNICEF and the WHO, not one study
cited 'okro mouth' or anything remotely related as a cause. While we
should all strive to season our words with salt and be kind in our
utterances, in line with the scriptures, a woman's loud mouth does not
excuse domestic violence against her. I am not oblivious to the fact
that men can also be victims of domestic violence and I also vehemently
condemn it.
I understand you experienced some form of violence in
your past relationship and it takes a lot of strength to speak up about
it so kudos to you! However, that does not make you an expert on the
subject, neither does it give you the license to fabricate figures just
to make a point. You need to do more research and be better informed
before you speak. Use your platform for good or don't use it at all.
Chioma Nwigwe
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