Lots of things can cause heartbreak. Some people might have had a romantic relationship that ended before they were ready. Others might have strong feelings for someone who doesn’t feel the same way or maybe a friend moves out of their life. Although the causes may be different, the feeling of loss is the same whether it’s the loss of something real or the loss something you only hoped for. People describe heartbreak as a feeling of heaviness, emptiness, and sadness. 
Tips that will help you lessen the pains
Most people will tell you, you’ll get over it or you’ll meet someone else but when it’s happening to you, it can feel like no one else in the world has even felt the same way. If you are experiencing these feeling. Here are things you can do to lessen the pain:-
- Remember what’s good about you: – This one is really important. Sometimes people with broken hearts start to blame themselves for what happened. They may be really down on themselves, exaggerating their faults as though the unhappiness they’re experiencing. If you find this happening to you, nip it in the bud! Remind yourself of your good qualities, and if you can’t think of them because your broken heart is clouding your view, then get your friends to remind you.
- Share your feelings: – Some people find that sharing their feelings with someone they trust, someone who recognizes what they’re going through helps them feel better. That could mean talking over all the things you feel, even having a good cry on the shoulder of a comforting friend or family member. Others find they heal better if they normally enjoy. Like seeing a movie or going to a concert, to take their minds off the hurt. If you feel like someone can’t relate to what you’re going through or is dismissive of your feelings, find someone more sympathetic to talk to. Ok, we know that sharing feelings can be tough for guys, but you can find a female family member or friend, like an older sister or a neighbour, to talk to.
- Take good care of yourself: – A broken heart can be stressful so don’t let the rest of your body get broken too. Get lots of sleep, eat healthy food and exercise regularly to minimise stress and depression and give yourself esteem a boost.
- Do the things you normally enjoy: – Whether it’s seeing a movie or going to a concert, do something fun to take your mind off the negative feelings for a while.
- Don’t be afraid to cry: – Going through a break up can be real, though, and getting some of those raw emotions out can be a big help. We know this is another tough one for guys, but there’s no shame in crying now and then. No one has to see you do it, you don’t have to start blubbering in class or at soccer practice or anything. Just find a place where you can be alone, like crying into your pillow at night or in the shower when you’re getting ready for the day.
- Keep yourself busy:- sometimes this is difficult when you’re coping with sadness and grief, bit it really helps. This is a great time to redecorate your rooms or try a new hobby. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t think about what happened working things through in one’s mind, is all part of the healing process it just means you should focus on other things too.
- Give yourself time: – It takes time for sadness to go away. Almost everyone thinks they won’t feel normal again. But the human spirit is amazing. And the heartbreak almost always heals after a while. But how long will that take? That depends on what caused your heart break, how you deal with loss, and how quickly you tend to bounce back from things. Getting over a break-up can take a couple of days, to many weeks and sometimes even months.
Some people feel that nothing will make them happy again and resort to alcohol or drugs. Others feel angry and want to hurt themselves or someone else. People who drink, do drugs, or cut themselves to escape from the reality of a loss may think they are numbing their pain, but the feeling is only temporary. They’re not dealing with the pain, only masking it, which makes all their feelings build up inside and prolongs the sadness.
Talking to a counsellor or therapist can be very helpful. So be patient with yourself, and let the healing begin.
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