Don’t be scammed, your boyfriend might be lying

Attention, attention, attention, girls! Remember that earring you found in his car but he said he bought for you? Well, it could be that his side chic forgot it in the car.

And the last time he dashed into the kitchen to inform you that his friend, Emeka, just called him to say that the filling station 10kms away was selling fuel and he had to go, that could just be his other girlfriend calling to confirm a rendezvous. a perfect lie for this season of no fuel.

Oh my dear, be sure that he did not cancel your last hang-out because the other woman insisted on spending time with him. And he might have told you that his boss gave him an emergency call. Of course, you’d let him go because you don’t want him to lose his job.

Truth be told, scamming comes in different packages and identifying the ruses used by your boyfriend, is key in determining whether you want your relationship to progress or not.  I’m not being partial. I am sure the statistics exist somewhere under the sun, which proves that men lie to their partners more than women do, (don’t ask me for the survey results though, because I don’t have it).

Don’t get me wrong, lying is universal and one of the sins everyone from every race, regardless of gender or profession, commits. But the male species especially boyfriends are in a different category.

So, here are some lies you are likely to have been told and fallen for.

• When you’ve never met any relative (especially mom): Before you ask, no, friends, “buddies” and colleagues don’t count. Your boyfriend should be proud of you and willing to show you off to important people in his life like his mother, his mentor, the high school teacher that saved him from the life of drugs and living under bridges, his little sister, and so on. Most ladies believe that when their boyfriend introduces them to friends, he is staking a claim. But that’s not true. In fact, some of these so called friends haven’t even been friends with him for long. He might have just met them at a bar and they bonded talking about football and how many girls they’ve conquered. Be wise. And realize that if he hides you or discourages you from meeting his family, then he might be lying to you about something.
• When you find articles of female clothing in his room or car: We must have all encountered this scenario. You “innocently” open a drawer in his room and see a pair of female underwear that’s definitely not yours. Of course your mind goes wild, you start thinking murder and swear it’d rain fire and brim storm. Finally when you confront him with the exhibit, he says the underwear is for his sister, she must’ve packed it with his clothes when she was doing laundry. Huh! Like seriously…His sister did that? Dear, don’t be too sure that is true.
• When a particular phone number keeps calling his line: Of course he won’t save the number with a name you can easily suspect and you will be accused of checking his phone. But girls, don’t be deluded into thinking it is wrong for you to do that. In fact, I can assure you that people who claim they don’t check their spouse’s phones are the most culpable.

So check away. Expectedly, he’d say it’s a friend or a new business partner or his mother’s new line. Don’t be scammed. Granted, he could be telling the truth but he might be lying too. So copy the number and call. Just hear the voice and cut the call. Now you have your answer. What will you do about it?

• When he comes home later than usual: It’s a rule of thumb that as soon as your partner starts keeping late night, he has a secret. Do you want to find out what the secret(s) is or are? Then don’t ask him. He might lie, he was out with the boys, the meeting took longer than he expected, there was traffic, the car broke down, there was an accident on the road, blah, blah, blah. All lies! Believe them at your own peril anyway. Trusting your boyfriend should come naturally. When it doesn’t, believe your intuition, sister.
• When he stops eating your food: Every woman will agree that cooking for your beloved is not always an enjoyable task. But we do it anyway, out of loyalty, love or just because you feel it’s your responsibility. So I can imagine your perplexity when said beloved doesn’t eat the meal you labored over. Excuses are always at hand. He’s tired, he had a late lunch, he has stomach ulcer, etc. Proceed with caution. If he still doesn’t eat the delicacies you’re preparing, then another woman might be feeding him. Just saying. We all know the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.

To add insult to injury, they will claim they were shielding you from the truth or that you weren’t in the capacity to accommodate the truth. Really! A lie is a lie and saying you didn’t want to hurt me with the truth does not make me feel better. Right?!

Don’t come to the worst assumption. For every lie you suspect, keep it to yourself and gather enough evidence to support your cause. Being harmed with enough exhibits, he won’t be able to deny your liberation. And you know what they say; the truth will set you free.

I rest my case……for now at least.