Many people would describe sex as good,
exciting, electrifying and refreshing, especially if done with consent
and in a favourable atmosphere.
The benefits identified to be derivable
from the exercise include improved immunity through the increase in
the
levels of immunoglobulin A; reduction of blood pressure; a good form of
exercise; reduces pain as well as brings about the release of feel good
hormones; reduces stress and the likelihood of prostate cancer in men
and improved bladder control in women.
Interestingly, the duration of the act
may not really matter in determining whether the identified benefits
would be derived from it or not, and according to experts, the duration
does not even matter when it is done for procreation.
But findings have shown that longer
sexual intercourse does not only boost a man’s ego, it helps him to
enjoy the act the more. While for women, the longer the act, the more
the likelihood of them reaching orgasm.
But the question is, How long should good sex last?
According to a study by two scientists,
Eric Corty and Jenay Guardiani, from the Pennsylvania State University
in the United States, good sex does not necessarily have to last for
hours. In fact, they said it could last for minutes. In their post on sciencedaily.com, they noted that satisfactory sexual intercourse should actually be between three and 13 minutes.
The researchers involved 50 members of
the Society for Sex Therapy and Research in the study, and these members
include physicians, nurses, psychologists, marriage and family
therapists and social workers who have attended to thousands of patients
over several decades.
These participants categorised the time
sex should last, according to experience, into four, namely too short,
adequate, desirable and too long, and the measurement of the time starts
from the penetration of the vagina to the actual ejaculation.
The experts categorised sexual
intercourse that lasts between one and two minutes as “too short”. They
said if it lasts between three to seven minutes, it is “adequate”, if it
is between seven and 13 minutes, it is “desirable” while any romp in
the sack that lasts between 10 and 30 minutes is deemed to be “too
long.”
The researchers pointed out that people
tend to judge their performance or that of their partner by the dictates
from the society, and not what is okay for them.
They said, “A man’s or woman’s
interpretation of his or her sexual functioning as well as the partner’s
functioning relies on personal beliefs developed in part from society’s
messages; formal and informal. Unfortunately, today’s popular culture
has reinforced stereotypes about sexual activity. Many men and women
seem to believe the fantasy model of large penises, rock-hard erections
and all-night-long intercourse.”
Corty, who is an associate professor of
psychology, said their survey would help to rekindle people’s confidence
in themselves and trim down on their fantasies, noting that the
situation at hand had made people to have unrealistic expectations.
He added, “This seems a situation ripe
for disappointment and dissatisfaction. With this survey, we hope to
dispel such fantasies and encourage men and women with realistic data
about acceptable sexual intercourse, thus preventing sexual
disappointments and dysfunctions.
“Also, if a patient is concerned about
how long intercourse should last, these data can help shift the patient
away from a concern about physical disorders and to be initially treated
with counselling, instead of medicine.”
Meanwhile, another study by a
psychologist, Dr. Brendan Zietsch, from the University of Queensland,
Australia, sought to unravel how long penetrative sex should last. For
the sake of avoiding complexities, he said given that there are many
other activities that come before sex, like foreplay, the actual time of
sex should also be when the man enters the woman. But, what did he
arrive at?
About 500 heterosexual couples drawn
from around the world participated in the study, and what he did was to
give each of them stopwatch and he told them to press start at the time
of penile penetration and they should press stop at ejaculation. He
observed that even though using a stopwatch was not a perfect measure,
it was better than asking people to state how long it took them as there
would be biases.
He said, “I know there’s a lot more to
sex than putting the penis into the vagina and ejaculating, but the rest
is not always easy to define (kissing? Rubbing? Grinding?). To keep
things simple and specific, we’ll just focus on the time to
ejaculation.”
After the study that lasted one month,
Zietsch was able to deduce from the data he collated that the range of
the time people had sex was between 33 seconds and 44 minutes. He then
pointed out that the average across all the participants was five
minutes, four seconds.
He also observed that the use of condom,
which according to some, reduces the sensitivity of the penis, did not
make any difference, noting further that the age of the couples played a
role as younger couples, aged between 18 and 30, lasted longer (six
minutes, five seconds) than older couples, 51 years and above, who
lasted for four minutes, three seconds.
Also, the participants recorded that in
spite of the varying times their romp in the sack lasted, they were
satisfied. Thus, Zietsch therefore noted that as far as sex is
concerned, there is no standard or normal time that it should take as
long as the parties were satisfied.
Commenting on the findings of the
studies, a psychologist, Prof. Oni Fagboungbe, said it would be
difficult and unrealistic to establish a certain time as the standard
duration that sexual intercourse should last.
He said the goal of sex is for both
partners to be satisfied, such that they would reach orgasm. He noted
that regardless of the time it takes, as long as both parties are
satisfied (ejaculation in the case of the man and orgasm in the case of
the woman), the deed had been done.
He said, “The essence of sex is to make
the persons involved to reach orgasm and enjoy it, but we are not the
same, so we cannot actually put a time limit on when one should reach
orgasm because it depends on individuals.
“Actually, it is the act of the man that
makes the lady to reach orgasm, so a man must be able to locate the
woman’s erogenous zone so as to assist her to reach orgasm. And since
sex is an act, people can practise and learn it to be better in it and
that is why some men use drug to delay the ejaculation.”
Speaking on the factors that could make
the man not to be able to perform well to the extent of satisfying a
woman, he said the factors responsible could be psychological or
physiological, adding that the size of the penis also plays a prominent
role in sexual enjoyment.
He said, “The ladies’ vagina has walls
that are sensitive and responsive to touch. So, if the penis is too
small, it is like wearing an oversized shoe, it won’t match, but if the
penis is big enough and firm, it will be able to touch all the necessary
areas, like the erogenous zones, especially the ones within the walls
of the vagina.
“Likewise, the physiological factors
have to do with the health of the organs responsible, for example the
turgidity of the penis to be able to penetrate well and deep, and the
state of health of the man. The psychological factors on the other hand
include depression, tiredness, lack of concentration while the act is
going on and the psychological acceptance between the parties is also
key. Both parties have to be willing and prepared.”
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